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9/13/2022

Slow Processing, Time Management Issues, Unrealistic Expectations & Ramped Up Stress Responses

Conjecture

Asynchronous people with Slow Processing are going to be in a WORLD OF HURT if they don't recognize some IDIOSYNCRATIC Time Management Challenges.

Ideally, parents and teachers are aware of idiosyncratic time management challenges for the "EXCEPTIONALITIES."

But we're just starting to appreciate these issues from an occupational therapy standpoint ---
The reality is most kids & adults are on their own.

There can be a lot of "CRASH & BURN" --- especially when these ASYNCHRONOUS KIDS become ADULTS and they don't have the EXECUTIVE FUNCTIONING SUPPORT that was being provided by their families.

TOUGH LOVE is probably the WRONG PRESCRIPTION in most cases where we're dealing with a NEURO-DEVELOPMENTAL DIFFERENCE such as ADHD, Autism, Dyslexia and or "Giftedness"/Asynchrony.

We now understand that there are SERIOUS CONCERNS when people are accumulating a COMPOUNDING "SLEEP DEBT" ---

I would submit there are SERIOUS HEALTH CONCERNS when we're accumulating a COMPOUNDING "TIME DEBT."
- and this is what is a contributing factor to NEURO-DIVERSE BURNOUT &/or BREAK-DOWN.

Gilbert Supporters of the Gifted

Now what is particularly UNHELPFUL is for us or the people in our lives to say:

"If you really cared/ were responsible or loved me --- YOU/WE WOULDN'T HAVE THESE CHALLENGES." --- OR
YOU'RE AN IDIOT

By and large, a lot of taking this personally and failing to recognize STRENGTHS ---

goes away when we recognize the NEURO-DEVELOPMENTAL EXECUTIVE FUNCTIONING DIFFERENCES --- AND
THE ASYNCHRONY

Now most us want this kind of "FORBEARANCE" and Understanding --- BUT we're not particularly good at giving it.

The more the NUTS & BOLTS of Occupational Therapy approaches to Executive Functioning Issues and Asynchrony are developed and understood in the Society ---

the easier it will be for Individuals, Families, Employers and the Society at large.

Occupational Therapy & Executive Functions

Image Credit: St. Catherine University ---
Val's Take: Traditional "Therapy" has an important place in the TOOL KIT --- But we're often missing "OCCUPATIONAL THERAPY."

Significant private and public resources are WASTED by not addressing Executive Functioning Issues from an OCCUPATIONAL THERAPY PERSPECTIVE.

Neuro-Diverse Relationships are Hard Work--- You Are Carrying A Heavy Load for An Ignorant Society

9/5/2022

Conjecture

LGBTQ+ and Heterosexuality are often (not always) something you are aware of from a young age.
- I didn't just wake up one morning and decide I was HETEROSEXUAL --- I can remember at 3 having a crush on the 4-year neighbor boy and and he was paying much more attention to Lissa --- I'm still working on forgiving Lissa.
  - Now, like a lot of things --- not everybody may fit this mold.

When we talk about Neuro-Diversity we're talking about a mix of HETEROSEXUAL and LGBTQ+ folks who UNLIKE THEIR SEXUALITY ----
- Came to find out about their NEURO-DIVERSITY --- sometimes not until they were ADULTS.
  - Many people don't have a LABEL or a CATEGORY however imperfect to try understand the perplexing mix of often HIGH SUBSTANTIVE STRENGTHS and EXECUTIVE FUNCTIONING CHALLENGES.

Further, the Society and Our Mental Health Profession aren't very good at understanding NEURO-DIVERSITY either.
- Progress is being made -- slowly.
- Everyone's doing the best they can --- but I'm pretty pissed about being asked to "PAY OUT OF NETWORK" for the STANDARD OF CARE THAT IS REALLY OUT THERE.*

For Neuro-Diverse people, Families and the Societies it's coming to EMBRACE both the HIGH STRENGTHS --- AND --- THE EXECUTIVE FUNCTIONING CHALLENGES.
- It has IMPLICATIONS in BOTH AREAS.
- Further, it has IDIOSYNCRATIC IMPLICATIONS in both areas.

If we're not BUDGETING THE TIME & ENERGY to UNDERSTAND --- AND ---- ACCOMMODATE/WORK AROUND these IDIOSYNCRATIC DIFFERENCES ---
- We will be sorry.

The more we are able to do this as a SOCIETY, get some ROUGH TEMPLATES to address HIGH STRENGTHS and EXECUTIVE FUNCTIONING CHALLENGES--- the easier this is going to be for everyone.

Neurodivergent Rebel
Setting & Maintaining Boundaries when You are Autistic or Neurodivergent

[Now, I think "BOUNDARIES" are important for understanding the CONTOURS of Solutions --- to get to 3rd Alternatives.

Further, if you're in a Relationship and you are Neuro-Diverse --- I think there is a high likelihood that the other person is also Neuro-Diverse --- and they will be wanting/needing to set their own idiosyncratic boundaries.

I don't think this is just about Neuro-Typical vs. Neuro-Diverse.

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